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May 23, 2017 18:54:37 GMT -7
Post by Deleted on May 23, 2017 18:54:37 GMT -7
Dear Jamie,
I don't let anyone else read our letters. Though quite honestly, if Dustin caught me reading one I wouldn't stop him from reading it. I suppose that's true about knowing who your audience is. I appreciate your honesty and asking me your questions. I don't really get a lot of owls from people that want to know the real me. They mostly just want an autograph. I love my parents, don't get me wrong, I just don't want the life they've planned for me. I like doing things, and I love the thrill of playing Quidditch. I'm not sure I was made for a desk job, I need more excitement, even though I love reading and studying. I agree, trying the moves is scarier, but it's also worth it. Try out your moves and it will help you get better, which is always a good thing. Just reading theory doesn't teach half as much.
Sincerely, ~Evelyn
@jamie
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May 27, 2017 19:04:11 GMT -7
Post by Deleted on May 27, 2017 19:04:11 GMT -7
dear evelyn,
In any case, you and one of your friends reading the letters is different from the entire world reading them. I can see how only getting letters from people who want your autograph would be saddening. Sometimes it can be hard, though, because, like I said, I didn’t want to seem like I was prying. And what’s the difference between innocent curiosity and prying? It’s different for everyone, so what you see as an effort to get to know the real you, another person could see as me trying to take advantage of their celebrity. It’s a delicate balance, I suppose. I love my mom, too… not that I can tell her that. I called her the other day, after not talking to her for a few months (voluntarily – it’s a long story), and her phone was disconnected. Sorry, that was probably a little too personal, huh? I’m trying to practice as much as possible, but there’s just so much to do and so little time, you know? yours sincerely, jamie
@evelyn
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Jun 3, 2017 22:08:01 GMT -7
Post by Deleted on Jun 3, 2017 22:08:01 GMT -7
Dear Jamie,
That's true. It is different getting letters from people that want to get to know me and people who just want a bit of the fame (mostly as in an autograph, but to be completely honest I don't mind sending those to people if they bother enough to write and ask for one). You're right about curiosity and prying, but I have to add that I think it has a lot to do with one's state of mind. If they thing that they are so big that of course everyone wants to know what's going on in their lives, I believe they are more likely to think you are trying to pry into their lives. If, on the other hand, a person tried to get to know the other back, then I think it's more curiosity and sharing information than anything else.
Don't worry about being too personal, your secrets are safe with me. I'm sorry you could not contact your mother the other day. Maybe just keep on trying? However, I'm pretty sure she knows you love her. Most parents know that, I believe. At least, most parents that care about their children know that.
Yes, I know all about practicing but not having enough time to practice all you want. My suggestion is, work on one skill at a time. If you try to perfect everything at once, you won't become entirely proficient at it. Choose something that you see as the most important, work on it until you feel as though you've mastered it and then move on to another. That's what I try to do at least.
Sincerely ~Evelyn @jamie
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Jun 7, 2017 16:31:16 GMT -7
Post by Deleted on Jun 7, 2017 16:31:16 GMT -7
dear evelyn,
I still can’t believe that people can be that egotistical – to think that the entire world wants to know their every move, I mean. I try to have some semblance of self-esteem, but thinking that even one person wants to know more about me can be difficult for me. I mean, I have a pen pal (which is complicated in about a hundred different ways, so I won’t bother trying to explain them) but it still baffles me sometimes when she asks me questions about myself and seems to want to know more about me. I think that I’ve told you about myself, haven’t I? I really do want this to be sharing information, but sometimes I don’t think I know the line between sharing and oversharing and being vague and rambling.
It’s a little difficult to try contacting her. I don’t want to send her an owl, just because she works in a Muggle area so owls coming in and out of her place of residence would be pretty suspicious, and a lot of what I have to say probably won’t come off very well in letters, because it’s all emotionally charged, and that doesn’t transfer well. I might send an owl, though… I don’t want to call it my last resort, but it is. As for my mother knowing I love her… I said some things that might lead her to believe otherwise and then didn’t talk to her for over six months, so I don’t think I’m wrong to doubt.
Maybe that’s why I’m always stressed – I try to be good at everything at once. Sometimes when I work on only one thing at a time I feel like I’m not getting good fast enough, and then I add more to my plate. Kind of silly that I haven’t realized that’s what I do until just now. yours sincerely, jamie
@evelyn
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Jun 12, 2017 13:56:14 GMT -7
Post by Deleted on Jun 12, 2017 13:56:14 GMT -7
Dear Jamie,
I guess my only advice for that is do what feels right. If you feel like someone truly wants to get to know you and you're comfortable with that, then tell them about you? If you don't feel comfortable with it, then keep it to yourself or be vague. Just ... don't be something you're not trying to impress people or do what they want you to. The most important thing is for you to continue being you. If they like that, great! If not, they're not really worth your time.
I'm sorry things are so complicated with your family. That makes things hard. I'd probably try and talk, even if it means sending an owl, but once again, don't let someone else tell you what to do. You do what you feel is right.
Realizing it is the important thing. That way you can work on it and work with it, or find a way to use that to your advantage. (don't ask me how though)
Sincerely ~Evelyn @jamie
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Jun 24, 2017 7:58:40 GMT -7
Post by Deleted on Jun 24, 2017 7:58:40 GMT -7
dear evelyn,
I have learned that my instincts almost always say to trust someone, even when they don’t have my best interests in mind. Some would call It naïve, but I went through a period of time where I was down about myself and my life, and I’m worried that if I start to second-guess my instincts and think the worst of people I’ll get back into that funk. What I try to do is tell people the stuff about me that’s interesting, but not personal. Most people assume that I’m a werewolf, and I am, but that’s not something I like to share with people off the bat. I talk about Quidditch a lot, too, since people seem to think it’s interesting I want to play professionally.
I don’t think my family will ever not be complicated. It comes with the ‘father being an evil werewolf’ territory, I guess. (Not entirely sure, since I haven’t actually met anyone not related to me whose father is an evil werewolf. Which is a good thing, I guess.)
Self-awareness is paramount. I’m trying to figure out a way to make it work to my advantage, but jury’s still out. I’ll probably ask my friends what they think – they’re all pretty smart people. yours sincerely, jamie
@evelyn
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Jul 1, 2017 12:35:14 GMT -7
Post by Deleted on Jul 1, 2017 12:35:14 GMT -7
Dear Jamie,
Well just be careful. I can understand wanting to trust people. I, however, tend to go on the more cautious side. Sure, if people show interest, I'll tell them about myself, but I don't really let them get to know me until I feel they're trustworthy. I guess it sounds like you do that to, keeping the personal things to yourself for a while. As long as you feel comfortable with it, that's what matters though.
I think family in general is complicated, though yours does sound a bit more so than most. I hope you can find peace with it though.
Talking to your friends sounds like a good idea. I'm sure they can help you see yourself in a different way and figure out the things you want to improve on.
Sincerely ~Evelyn @jamie
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Jul 6, 2017 16:42:47 GMT -7
Post by Deleted on Jul 6, 2017 16:42:47 GMT -7
dear evelyn,
I know how to be careful, I promise. And I have five siblings who are all… very strong personalities, shall we say. I’m certain that at least one of them would find me if I was kidnapped by a stranger or something along those lines, and then they’d probably punch strangers in the face. I think that having my siblings as my safety net does make me a little more comfortable – though it also makes me more cautious, since whatever I do reflects on them, too, and I wouldn’t want to paint our family in a poor light.
Thanks for your well wishes.
I just have to figure out which friend to talk to now! Thanks again for all your help, Evelyn. yours sincerely, jamie
@evelyn (le end)
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